Sexual Identity
First of all, realize, you are not your body. You are not a body which has developed a soul or spirit. You are a soul or spirit which has taken on a body. In the simplest possible terms, you are a spiritual being. If you do not know that, or learn that in life, you have missed the most important part of your identity. You may have no idea who you truly are. And that is a real problem in life.
Learn to see beyond your supposed sexual identity or gender. Otherwise, you may be trapped in a physical-emotional-mental focus that overshadows your deeper spiritual identity. Know who you truly are. Sexuality only covers up the problem of not knowing who you are, spiritually.
Sexual activity does not solve the problem. And, contrary to all of the New Age or "woke" teachers who preach sex as a means of finding yourself or gaining enlightenment, you could no sooner find yourself — or the truth or wisdom — in your big toe than in your genitals. But you can surely get lost in it.
An erroneous focus on sexuality rather than spirituality can keep God out of your life. Not because God is judging you, but rather, you are closing yourself to God, or Truth, or Light, or Christ, if you do not see yourself as a spiritual being. If you identity with anything other than your spirit or soul, you are not identifying with Christ. In other words, you may be somehow choosing to exclude Jesus from your life, or choosing something less.
You have to acknowledge spirit within you, in order to find Christ within you
And spirit is not personality, or a product of social group, culture, race, ethnicity, national origin, or ideology. It is, very simply, who you are on the deepest level of your being.
Have you ever felt a longing, a desire to feel more complete, more whole? It is important how you choose to identify your self and your needs — it defines who or what you look for to complete yourself. Many of us look to others, to find what we feel we are missing within us. In other words, our relationship to others is based upon who we feel we are, inside, and what we feel we should have more of. It identifies what we feel we are missing, more than who we really are. Most of us suffer from a loss of self, to one degree or another.
There are, as hard as it may be to believe, ordinary people (not prostitutes) who have had thousands of sex partners. They label that "success." At least one "celebrity" claimed twenty thousand. We ask: "What did this person get out of it? What did he learn? What did it all mean?" The answer is, of course, nothing — nothing good, that is.
It is impossible to find your self in your sexual identity, your ego, or your sexual role playing. None of that is really you.
If we do not really know who we are, we do not really know what we need, on a deeper level. If we want to feel good about ourselves and our lives, we usually do what makes us feel good. But that is often delusory: what fulfils us in our lives is not necessarily the things that produce physical pleasure or even emotional satisfaction. Usually, the more we seek happiness, love, approval, and completion outside ourselves, the less we realize is in us. We may become needy and dependent upon others for our sense of satisfaction with ourselves — or worse, take our identity from what others wish us to be. We learn to act as they want us to, or program us to be, fearing rejection, abandonment, or loss of their approval. Or simply seeking greater approval.
In any case, what we really want — and need — has to be found within us, beyond what others desire us to be. Other people — and society — have their own agenda and desires, which are not necessarily in our own best interest. We need to learn to be true to our selves, and find a deeper sense of who we really are.
Perhaps you can see, now, how this is a kind of battle between the way of the world, and the way of spirit. One tries to conform you to worldly expectation, programming, indoctrination (or grooming); the other seeks to set you free from such worldly oppression of your spirit. Satan seeks to set you free from God, Truth, and Light, to steal eternal Life from you, with the false promise of worldly self-satisfaction.
Christ seeks to free you, to free your spirit, to rescue you from a world of false programming, false expectations, delusions, oppression, and error. The error is the false sense of freedom taken from sexual freedom or even a reversed sexual identity. There is what is right, good, and true for you, and what is not — which is in fact the opposite of that. Choose wisely.
All you need to do, is to identify yourself as spirit first. And then let all the rest of life fall into place below that. Put God and Christ first in your life by realizing who you truly are, who you are in God, and who God is in you. Then, learn what it means to live that Way.
